All through middle school and high school I had a very good friend – a best friend. She and I spent almost all of our free time together. We were basically inseparable. Eventually, as friendships tend to do, we grew apart when we started college (well I started and she sort of started then stopped). She spent more time with her co-workers and I meet new people at school – people that held the same hours as me. One day my friend experienced a tragedy and I thought that I could help her get through it by becoming her roommate. What I wasn’t expecting was for the entire experience to be a nightmare. She lied to me and clearly had no respect for me, my things, or my feelings. I cried almost every day that I lived there and, after 6 months, I left. We’ve never talked since and that’s been about 5 years now. The main reason for this post is that, while I’m disappointed in her and the way she treated me and the situation we ended up in, I would still have dreams about her and how we had reconnected. I think the dreams really started when Mark and I started getting serious. We always talked about how we would be each others ‘maids of honor.’ I think that is why it was strange to me that she had never met my (at the time) boyfriend and it is really weird that she has no idea that I’m married. There are whole parts of my life that she knows nothing about – things that I always thought she would know. A couple of weekends ago I saw her. She looked unhealthy skinny and had two boys (I can only assume these boys are hers since they are in her facebook picture as well). TWO BOYS! I was very surprised by this. I don’t think she’s married (and worry that they – or one of them – is the result of activities with this douchebag she was with when we lived together). There are whole parts of her life that I know nothing about. Things I always thought I would know about. I didn’t throw her a baby shower! We have become two very different people now. I don’t think we will ever reconnect, but I do hope that she is healthy and happy. I guess I will never know. Labels: aminutewiththemrs
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